Your marriage is worth fighting for
Discover how to turn against what divides you and fight together for the relationship you've always wanted.
Do you long for more in your marriage?
You feel lonely, even though you're not alone
You're caught in the same fight, over and over
The passion and connection you once had seems to be fading
The Enemy Is Not Your Spouse
What if your biggest conflict isn't with each other, but with the forces trying to divide you? The Fight for Us offers a revolutionary approach to marriage—turning against what divides you so you can fight for your relationship together.
Through story, psychology and biblical teaching, you’ll discover a new framework to:
• Know why you fight, how you fight, and how to overcome toxic patterns
• Relinquish coping mechanisms or addictions that have come between you
• Renew your commitment to recover intimacy and connection with your spouse
• Establish goals and rhythms that deepen your friendship and unity as a couple
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FREE QUIZ FOR COUPLES IN CONFLICT
What's Your Dance?
Every couple has a dance—find out if you and your spouse are stuck in silent, intense, avoidant, or anxious conflict patterns—and how to stop stepping on each other’s toes!
Free Gifts when You Preorder Now
Pre-order The Fight for Us and receive the following gifts for free!
Fighting FOR Your Marriage Masterclass ($59 value) - Learn how to identify why you fight, recognize what you truly feel, and discover practical ways to heal together as you transform from opponents into allies in the battle for your marriage.
Emotional Health for Marriages ($29 value) - This mini-course will help you reset overwhelming triggers, retrain your brain to shift the narrative and treat adversity as a friend rather than an enemy.
Growth & Connection Toolkit (free download)
First Three Chapters (free download)
To Help You Build a Thriving Marriage
Free Resources
Start Reading Chapter 1: Recognize when you're caught in blame and discover the turning point that can transform your marriage from isolation to unity.
7 Conversation Starters to Go Deeper with Your Spouse: Break out of surface-level chats and dive into meaningful conversation.
What Couples Are Saying
Dear Couples,
In a culture that increasingly devalues marriage, we've learned firsthand that the most meaningful fight isn't against your spouse but for your relationship. Through 25 years of marriage—navigating the birth of our son with Down syndrome, cross-country moves, adoption, career transitions, and periods of emotional disconnection—we've discovered that thriving marriages don't happen by accident. We didn't write this book because we have a perfect marriage; we wrote it because we know what it's like to lose each other in the midst of busyness and find our way back.
The enemy wants nothing more than to divide what God has joined together, and he's using every cultural force available to erode the foundation of marriage in our society. But we believe your marriage is worth fighting for—not just for your own joy and fulfillment, but as a powerful testimony to a watching world. By learning to nurture your hearts, understand your origin stories, create healthy rhythms, and cultivate true intimacy, you can build a marriage that not only survives but becomes a beacon of hope in a fractured world.
In the fight with you,
Gabe & Rebekah Lyons