Your marriage is worth fighting for
It’s easy to drift apart, walking through life more as roommates than partners. But there’s so much more for your marriage. The Fight for Us covers it all—community, health, money, parenting, career, sex, conflict, and spirituality.
Do you long for more in your marriage?
You feel lonely, even though you're not alone
You're caught in the same fight, over and over
The passion and connection you once had seems to be fading
The Enemy Is Not Your Spouse
What if your biggest conflict isn't with each other, but with the forces trying to divide you? The Fight for Us offers a revolutionary approach to marriage—turning against what divides you so you can fight for your relationship together.
Through story, psychology and biblical teaching, you’ll discover a new framework to:
• Know why you fight, how you fight, and how to overcome toxic patterns
• Relinquish coping mechanisms or addictions that have come between you
• Renew your commitment to recover intimacy and connection with your spouse
• Establish goals and rhythms that deepen your friendship and unity as a couple
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FREE QUIZ FOR COUPLES IN CONFLICT
What's Your Dance?
Every couple has a dance—find out if you and your spouse are stuck in silent, intense, avoidant, or anxious conflict patterns—and how to stop stepping on each other’s toes!
Free Gifts when You Order Today
Order The Fight for Us and receive the following gifts for free!
Fighting FOR Your Marriage Masterclass ($59 value) - Learn how to identify why you fight, recognize what you truly feel, and discover practical ways to heal together as you transform from opponents into allies in the battle for your marriage.
Emotional Health for Marriages ($29 value) - This mini-course will help you reset overwhelming triggers, retrain your brain to shift the narrative and treat adversity as a friend rather than an enemy.
Growth & Connection Toolkit (free download)
First Three Chapters (free download)
To Help You Build a Thriving Marriage
Free Resources
Start Reading Chapter 1: Recognize when you're caught in blame and discover the turning point that can transform your marriage from isolation to unity.
7 Conversation Starters to Go Deeper with Your Spouse: Break out of surface-level chats and dive into meaningful conversation.
What Couples Are Saying
"We've seen the beauty and strength of Gabe and Rebekah Lyons' marriage, and it's nothing short of inspiring. Every couple needs this book. It's a game changer for marriages in today's culture."
Willie and Korie Robertson
"By God's design, marriage is the foundation for a flourishing world. These two are unmatched in how they lead in truth and love through their vulnerability."
Chris and Lauren Tomlin
"Their vulnerability, paired with practical wisdom, equips couples to not just survive but thrive in their marriages. Filled with humor and humility, it's not just a story; it's a map for healing and flourishing."
Benjamin and Kirsten Watson
"If our marriages are to thrive rather than merely survive, it's vital to navigate challenges in God-honoring and scripturally grounded ways. The Fight for Us is just such a guide."
John and Lisa Bevere
"Whether your relationship is in need of a reminder, restoration, or full rescue, The Fight for Us, like a trusted field guide, will forge the way to a marriage that thrives."
Elisabeth and Tim Hasselbeck
"Their raw honesty and playfulness bring an ease to the often daunting parts of marriage that most of us feel ill-equipped to face."
Hillary Scott Tyrrell and Chris Tyrrell
"If you've asked, 'How can we learn to communicate better? Is a healthier marriage even possible?' this book is for you… it leaves you excited and hopeful."
Madison Prewett and Grant Troutt
"All-encompassing in topics, it constantly kept nudging us toward Jesus, and most of all, it feels like a marriage book written for the modern person facing all the difficulties of being a Christian and married today."
Jefferson and Alyssa Bethke
"Through their story, they've given us a guide to not just navigate conflict but to use it as a tool for deeper intimacy and partnership."
Jonathan "JP" and Monica Pokluda
"This book will draw you in. You'll find yourself saying, 'That's us too!' And you'll receive practical tools to be a better 'us' for each other."
Josh and Christi Straub
"Accessible. Hopeful. Practical. Vulnerable. Compelling… it is a marriage lifeline—for genuine thriving."
Ann and Darryl Voskamp
"We've seen the beauty and strength of Gabe and Rebekah Lyons' marriage, and it's nothing short of inspiring. Every couple needs this book. It's a game changer for marriages in today's culture."
Willie and Korie Robertson
"By God's design, marriage is the foundation for a flourishing world. These two are unmatched in how they lead in truth and love through their vulnerability."
Chris and Lauren Tomlin
"Their vulnerability, paired with practical wisdom, equips couples to not just survive but thrive in their marriages. Filled with humor and humility, it's not just a story; it's a map for healing and flourishing."
Benjamin and Kirsten Watson
"If our marriages are to thrive rather than merely survive, it's vital to navigate challenges in God-honoring and scripturally grounded ways. The Fight for Us is just such a guide."
John and Lisa Bevere
Dear Couples,
In a culture that increasingly devalues marriage, we've learned firsthand that the most meaningful fight isn't against your spouse but for your relationship. Through 25 years of marriage—navigating the birth of our son with Down syndrome, cross-country moves, adoption, career transitions, and periods of emotional disconnection—we've discovered that thriving marriages don't happen by accident. We didn't write this book because we have a perfect marriage; we wrote it because we know what it's like to lose each other in the midst of busyness and find our way back.
The enemy wants nothing more than to divide what God has joined together, and he's using every cultural force available to erode the foundation of marriage in our society. But we believe your marriage is worth fighting for—not just for your own joy and fulfillment, but as a powerful testimony to a watching world. By learning to nurture your hearts, understand your origin stories, create healthy rhythms, and cultivate true intimacy, you can build a marriage that not only survives but becomes a beacon of hope in a fractured world.
In the fight with you,
Gabe & Rebekah Lyons